Posted by: notdeaddinosaur | January 6, 2016

Things I Wish I’d Said

On the phone with an older doc, who keeps saying, “What can I do for you, young lady?” and “Yes indeed, young lady.”

I fought the urge — oh I fought so hard — to say, “Wow, you must be really old if you think I’m young.” Sadly, I succeeded. I was polite throughout the encounter.

Even at the end, when he said, “Happy holidays to you, young lady,” and I managed not to say, “And to you as well, old man.”



  1. Your restraint was entirely admirable! (I don’t know if I would have been able to do the same….)

  2. Calling middle-aged & elderly women “young lady” demonstrates the patronizing and sexist assumption that we’re all distraught over not being young any more. I think we’re expected to giggle & preen in response. I just want to dope-slap the dope who says it.

  3. Darn. I was kinda hoping you’d have an answer to addressing these issues. It’s really hard, isn’t it. I’ve just finished a four month surgical posting where one of the senior doctors kept calling me “darling”. And I never addressed it because he has to sign off on my internship logbook eventually, and I just don’t trust that there are enough measures in place to protect me.

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